The Last Gentleman

This is definitely the last post for 2016, just in time and I doubt any of you will read this at the very last minute.

I don’t show much of my hobbies on my blog. The last time was when I gave you guys a tiny peek at my photography skills. Recently, I was back at it with my camera. I’m starting to really enjoy it. I love composing a shot, dialling in the focus and hearing the click. There is something thrilling about playing with the shutter and lighting. Maybe 2017 I’ll finally upload some photos.

However this recent excursion was disturbing to me. Might have been because I was carrying a camera or not, but it just seems respect is thrown out the window on Boxing Day. I was bumped and pushed aside in a downtown mall as I was taking pictures. It was late in the evening and yet people were running around like crazy trying to get deals already claimed in the morning. Drives me bonkers how Christmas turned into an occasion to spend money than helping others and Bring people together. It gets worse since somehow in the holiday greed, people lose sense of sensible civility in terms of manners. The “please” and “thank you” and “excuse me”, seems to come mostly from people in their 20’s and under. I don’t know what school’s are teaching kids these days, manners is definitely something slowly losing ground in a modern society.

Perhaps in 2017 all around the world, can we please be nicer and polite to each other than worrying about the bottom line? Thank you and have a nice day!


Airsoft – On Ethics And Values

Here I am again, reading and watching news footage of kids and teen getting in trouble with airsoft replicas and anti-gun folks up in arms about criminalizing guns and everything guns. Around the same time, I finally returned to play a day of airsoft and realizing the game sits between its values. I witnessed this first hand. Some people  I might put as those players who take it up as a game and some groups of people take it as a hobby; however there is some consensus on the rules of the game.

Honesty is a heavy value in airsoft. In games I’ve played, there have been instances where players don’t call their hits. As much as the players endorse people to call your hits when shot, I’ve seen some people who don’t receive this message properly. My local arena always says during their safety briefing, “Airsoft is a game of honour. Call your hits.” Which brings me to my next point, integrity.

Integrity is self reflection after the situation and able to act the same wherever they go. Meaning you are the same person with the same view at work as you would be at home. Airsofters I’ve played with have a range of integrity, which is interesting. Some people like to talk honestly and play like a foul player while some do play an honest game. When calling hits, whether you raise your hand up or not, you did indeed were shot. You are admitting a fault, you were shot! If you take hundreds of BB’s to the face and complain about another player not calling hits, you might want to check your values. Airsoft is still a game, you can always respawn and try again.

Along with receiving, sending someone BB’s is much more a demonstration of personal values in terms of respect, responsibility and fairness. Respect to the respect and obedience to field rules, I admit I may have a few times came to breaking rules. At my local field, they have a strict no vaulting rule. Vaulting meaning jumping up, over and through obstacles. I may have in my own 6 month stint have jumped over a few low windows. Respect can also be seen from player to player in terms of being fair to other players the opportunity to show mercy. The field I got to don’t have range rules, in theory you can shoot someone point blank. However I’ve seen a varying degree in restraints. As many players have shot me point blank, there have been players who asked to surrender or just swapped to melee. Respect for personal equipment; leave it where it lays or return it to the front desk. Which leads into responsibility for yourself and fellow players. Helping other ensure all equipment is still on them and helping the game marshal recover lost equipment. I poorly displayed my values of responsibility for losing a pistol magazine which I have to now replace. As well as breaking a feed lip from my spare magazine, I am not a prime example of responsibility; however I do admit my faults as a player, that’s self respect and integrity. Lastly most players I’ve seen is fairness when it comes with over shooting. Most players I’ve seen have restraint and good trigger discipline to not shoot a downed player walking away to respawn. It’s a value heavily for me since I’m usually the one being shot first.

The local field does have one value they highly enforce, safety. Personal safety on the field since plastic BB’s fly at 380 feet per second. They endorse full seal eye protection at the minimum, but full face protection is recommended. Last weekend, I was humble to my mesh mask since the games got into a team on team with 40 players on each side. I did get shot in the face a good dozen times, my face would look like pepperoni pizza without the face mask. Then their “no duff” calls, used when safety has been violated where the game must stop to assess the situation. As recommended if the googles fog up, get off the field and deal with it in the safe zone and if it’s serious, call a “no duff” to let everyone know some happened. Recently with news of someone getting shot in the eye with a replica gun, they were cracking down on safety much harder with checking fire selectors, barrel covers and heavily enforcing their “no dry fire” rules within the safe zone.

Airsoft as a game does have a lot to teach in values in ethics for those who choose to learn them. Airsoft as a political stance robs a generation of risk and pushing them closer to playing indoors, not learning anything but to play the game in front of them.



Spitter, People and Me

Once again in this city, I’m mildly disgusted at people in my city. Of course living in a diverse society brings in a lot of personalities and culture. Regardless of the shameless promoting of equality, positives always has negatives. This is no exception. This week, I have beef. This week, this is my rant.

Starting off with a small story about what happened the other day, I was outside in the brisk winter evening shopping. As a guy, I normally go shop to shop without asking questions of browsing for long durations. Walk in downtown is hectic as it is with people weaving in and out. Makes it worse when people can’t decide whether to walk past the left or the right of you and you two are shuffling side to side. To me it’s personally simple; this task, take the right side since oncoming traffic is usually to the left of you. Doesn’t matter which side of the street you’re on, move to the right!

This wasn’t even the worst offence. Of course downtown is the pubs and clubs, the parties and bars. I can understand when a place is occupied there are folks standing outside waiting on a table or having a smoke break. But you have to understand what a sidewalk means. “Sidewalk” as in a siding on a road for pedestrian locomotion. It’s not a damn private patio. You can loiter all you want but make some space. I’m trying to walk here and you are standing there. Just standing there like it was nothing. It’s public infrastructure and you’re impeding it. If you want to stand, step aside and make room.

Oh I’m far from done! We’re getting to the best part. So I’m walking down the street… I’m going to be as sudden as this buttwipe; I got spat on. First time in my life I’ve been spat on. This 5’8 douche didn’t have the courtesy to say sorry or turn his head as he sauntered towards me. Luckily, his saliva didn’t land anywhere near me; but you should’ve seen this guy’s aim. This guy’s aim was terrible it, he could’ve been the stormtrooper of spitting. If you know you can’t aim, like me, this is what I do. I step aside and spit into there gutter and not at someone on a crowded street. Seriously, that could’ve been assault and probably a hate crime. I would’ve been so pissed if that landed on me. First off, I wouldn’t think; I would just create a scene and likely knee him in the gonads before I start wailing on him. Seriously man, you are a tall ass man. Tilt your damn head and spit off to the side rather than towards people, you damn filthy animal.

It’s 2015, I’m starting to think being polite and well-mannered is something more of an afterthought. Maybe perhaps a bit of etiquette is a bit too much to even consider. Perhaps I should start peeing in front of crowds and obviously eat with my mouth open. While I’m at it, I won’t say excuse me when I fart or belch. What a world we live indeed, where no one has the pleasantries or consideration of others. It’s either this generation is losing out the most important lesson anyone can learn or no one bothers to care.

Either case until next time readers, I will never give up. Hopefully you won’t give up too. 

Double The Trouble – The No-Win Scenario

My personal newsfeed recently has been addressing a lot about the good ol’ double standard. It’s interesting how people are now pressing this as an issue. Is this really a big deal?

I’m not belittling the fact there is a problem with our society and how people should act to each other. It is interesting how people come to the defence of a certain gender; in particular, the arguments that are pro-male or pro-female and anti-male or anti-female remarks. The way I see things, all sides have a good point which everyone is a causality of the debate. No matter how you can argue, you can’t escape the fact you represent one gender. Your opinions are your own and they are valid to some extent but doesn’t mean it is the correct or incorrect value. It would be similar to looking through a window in a house facing in each direction and deciding which vista is the most beautiful.

For now, the news places a male in a situation where he shot people of one gender because the other gender made him feel inferior. No matter how much spin you place, this is the bottom line with all the fact currently presented. The secondary effects being the online lashing against males objectifying females and subject of sexual entitlement. The results are standard, victims placing blame based on observation bias and those who use this opportunity to parody and attack others based on that very bias.

Regardless of gender, race, culture and religion; no one is entitled to own another person as property. Most Western societies have outlawed this, to a coin a phrase to feel you belong to someone is one thing but to demand it is another matter. In our society, my society, we place values set decades ago towards males. We place them as the bread winners and protectors. Feminism at it’s core also places these values towards women, which should be how it should be; in fairness and equality. Feminism at it’s purest is to allow women to be able to do everything equally to men, in theory at least. We done leaps and bound sin the last 60-70 years to bring forth equality and yet we haven’t stopped because we still have so much to achieve. In this modern era, no one should feel greater than someone else based on gender; but there is artifacts of what was and is the past. In the workplace as an average; women make less than men, men are likely hired for laborious physical tasks. At the same time the way we treat taboos also account for bias; example being the teacher-student relationship; how often do you seen a male teacher in a school compared to a female teacher? In most areas, it’s fairly common while others still have a higher ratio of female teachers.

From birth to death, we are discriminated whether we like it or not. We personally to accept them as compliments or insults. Those gestures gravitate towards what is acceptable and what is not to a group of people. This becomes our norms and taboos, our codes and creeds. Though they may slowly change with the times, those that don’t usually have themselves rooted somewhere in our society. I’m not anyone under the bus on this matter but there are a lot we still hold on to from our Western past which hold true to today.

What do you see on TV and over the internet? What do you hear from others around you? The medium to present a message is everywhere we go in out interconnected world. We should be wary of the people present them and question them and never accept it as a fact. Women should never be skinny to the point where they are “slim”, men are not suppose to look buff with “abs of steel”. Look beyond the superficial and you will discover the truth, there are forces beyond a person’s control to change but doesn’t mean you have to play by those rules and perceptions. As a group, we can change what is acceptable and what is not; we have the power, but we are stuck here pointing fingers at each other. Men blamed for being misogynist while we watch the newest fashions donned by young and impressionable women. There is no side to blame besides our own. We are the product, we are the end point in this cycle we call society. That man shot women because he objectified women; at the same wouldn’t a woman have the same capability to do the same because she objectified men? If the situation and role were reversed, would it received the same media coverage as it did or would “he deserved what he got”? No one deserves to be shot and no one deserved to be shot because they are who they are and cannot change. Whoever you are, you are a victim as am I to other’s control. When we feel inferior, we try to feel superior and when we do we cause a chain reaction where we hurt others to make ourselves to feel better. This is a no win scenario where no argument is the right argument, it is only an argument just because this situation has arisen where we address it as a problem.

However where there is no right or wrong, there is a compromise where no side necessarily gains. In this case, it is acknowledgement of our flaws and differences. Women, you are held in regards for your behaviours just as men are responsible to our own. In our society, we sexualize both to gain a capital profit and in the end the only victims are those who idolize this perception and consider it as beauty. Don’t put us in  the position where we consider those perceptions to be true or there will be those radical enough to consider them as fact. Men, you too are expected to be held accountable for your actions. Any perceptions of manhood held by our former patriarchy regardless of it’s antiquity has very little merit in modern society.

Until next time, you are and ambassador of your respective sexes; respect each other or both would be disrespected upon.